Separation anxiety is one of the most difficult behaviors to work through in dogs and can stem from a number of deep rooted issues, but how do you solve it?

The issue here is that your dog has deemed YOU as his safe place, therefore, when you leave, it causes him to whirlwind into a state of fear, worry and anxiety. And since you’re gone, it seems like there’s no practical way for you to correct this behavior!

However, separation CAN be worked through with crate training, which, when done correctly, teaches a dog to love his crate as a place where he can feel secure when his hoomans are gone.

The trouble here is, if a dog has separation anxiety when you’re gone, he’s likely to have anxiety the minute you leave him in crate as well!

When most people get to this point, they throw up their arms in defeat and say “The crate didn’t work!”

People mistakenly think that you can throw a dog into a crate and it will magically work but the reality is that an anxious dog needs to be properly desensitized of the crate in order to help them associate it with positivity!

My favorite way to help a dog get over their anxiety is the “crate and wait” method. When paired together in crate training, the commands “crate” and “wait” are incredibly effective for helping a dog work through crate anxiety

Teaching a dog to go to a crate takes his mind off of being anxious about going in the crate by instead just following your command.

Once in the crate, teaching a dog to wait before coming out teaches the dog self-control, makes their mind off of being in a crate & lessens the excitement of getting out, which is a HUGE step for desensitizing a dog of the crate.

Those who follow me on my other social channels know that my dog Oso had SEVERE crate anxiety & control issues when I rescued him at 6 months old and it took weeks of diligently working on this command daily to get him to the point where he was finally comfortable in the crate.

Something that really helped me with Oso throughout the process was supplementing this training with CBD oil to help relax him during the training process! I’ve now used CBD oil for dogs to successfully work through dozens of anxiety cases and is something that I highly recommend trying out as a supplement to this training.

As a recap from the video, here’s how I recommend teaching “crate & wait”:

1️⃣ Have treats, a toy or another high-value reward ready that you will use to reward your dog.

2️⃣ Start a few feet away from your dog’s crate with your dog focused on you.

3️⃣ Tell your dog “go to your crate”. In the beginning, you may have to lure your dog into the crate by placing the reward in the back of the crate to motivate him to go in there.

4️⃣ Once your dog is in the crate, make him sit, tell him “yes” and then give him his reward.

5️⃣ Tell your dog to “wait” to shift your dog’s mind off of being in the crate.

6️⃣ Once relaxed, tell your dog “okay!”, open the crate door and make him sit in front of you.

7️⃣ Gradually increase the time between the “crate” + “wait” commands, repeating this exercise over and over on a daily basis until your dog is able to be in the crate without anxiety!

The more that you practice this & pair it with proper crate training habits, the more your dog will enjoy his crate as his safe place!

Once your dog is comfortable in the crate when you’re present, the next step in working through your dog’s separation anxiety when leaving is to practice extending the amount of time you can be gone without being exhibiting stress signals so he doesn't always associate the crate with being left alone and begin the anxiety cycle again.

Here’s a recap of how I did this:

1️⃣ To do this, start with your dog in the crate and record your dog so that you can see his behavior on your phone when you leave the room.

2️⃣ Leave the room for a very short amount of time where he will not get stressed (5-10 seconds to start)

3️⃣ Return to your dog, tell him “Yes!” and give him a treat for staying calm in the crate.

4️⃣ Repeat this exercise and double the length of time each time

5️⃣ During this practice, you have to find the point where your dog is starting to get uncomfortable but hasn’t gotten to the point where he is exhibiting stress signals such as howling, barking or digging to get out of the crate. You need to stay at this length of time until your dog is comfortable with you being gone for that period of time without exhibiting any stress signals.

Now, I know that was a ton of information to process and implement so make sure you re-watch this video and refer back to it often when you need reminders throughout the process

If you truly take this method to heart and put in LOTS of consistent practice, you will get to the point where your dog can be alone for hours without exhibiting any stress signals!!

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Do you do 1on1 training?👀

Hey. I got my puppy to do the crate part just fine. I'm working on the distance and time part now. He keeps barking when I'm out of view. Any tips that can help me and how should I respond when he does bark.

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I dont know why this video made my dog bark and freak out

We rescued a dog from Romania, her separation anxiety is really bad :( She howls and barks the whole day, she destroys her bed, toys and all the other stuff we leave around. We leave her in a room, not in the whole house. We tried medication, music, our smell, a dog therapist, a thundershirt,... nothing is working and i feel so bad leaving her behind :(

I would have separation anxiety from you too. Hubba Hubba. Pretty pretty gal.

Rocky is gorgeous! You have gorgeous dogs! I own a CBD dog treat company called HemPup that totally helps w separation anxiety. I’d love to send you some treats and get you and your dogs opinions on the treats. Would you like some? The website is

I took in a young dog that my son could no longer keep. I found out she is part pit bull and terrier. She is sweet but love to tear up a lot of things in the house. I never know what I may find. tore up a 600 dollar chair! I was so close to taking her back to the humane society. I know they are over crowned so I had 2nd thoughts. I started to look up what to do for separation anxiety to possibly help her. I know she loves us but LOVES to CHEW everything in site. Thank goodness a product like Cong helps a little. I will defiantly try your wonderful advice as I do not wish to make a "rash decision" Thank-you!

My dog flips out when i leave but when i come back he's over protective of me

I have been looking for a better answer/description about separation anxiety and I love what you said about "You are the safe place", that makes a lot of sense to me. Going to start his training and report back. Thank you

Ok that dog knows more on the Sit command than my 8 year old rescue. So my queation is do they need to be taught sit prior to crate training. And what do u do when u work 9 hours a day and they have to be crated forbtheir own safety

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My dog is very anxious. I have a 12 yr old mini dachshund whose separation anxiety/frustration barking I've been battling for a few months. I'm moving to an apartment (currently in a duplex) in a few months and I'm terrified that I'll get noise complaints. I've been talking to the vet and we might try a different medication to see if it'll help. If anyone has more suggestions I'd love to hear them.

I got a puppy two weeks ago, he's almost 11weeks old. im noticing some signs of separation anxiety, especially at nights when hes asleep alone. Im anxious to try follow these steps and desensitize him to his sleeping area. which treats do you recommend for small puppies?

I have an 8 week old puppy that's driving me to jump off a bridge. He won't allow me to do anything unless I'm holding him. I can't take a fucking shower without him crying insanely, can't use the bathroom, cant cook or clean without constantly tripping over him while he's crying for me, god forbid I leave for work he crys all damn day so terribly that now my neighbors are complaining. Idk what else to do. I can't take it anymore

Great video im going to use CBD oil as a supplement for my dog from now on and especially when I leave him for a week when I have to travel. It could help right?

I enjoyed this vid

This is such an informative video! My dog does fine in her crate but i hardly use it anymore as she is allowed in the living room when I leave. I’m leaving for a week though and I’m afraid she’ll need to be in her crate at my sisters house because she has a lot of plants that could poison her. She trembles when she’s left in a place she doesn’t know to well and pants. I’m hoping to supplement cbd and see how she does. Thank you for the tips on what to look for in the oil!

Hi! If i want to leave my dog in the garden, how can i train that? My dog barks and gets crazy when i leave, she lays in front of the door so I can't even go out.
Thank you so much if you answer :)

Hello, is this also important if there is no crate, but only his “place”/bed? Does that also count as a dogs safe place?

Interesting ! Great video :D

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